All emotional coldness refers to the distant attitude of those people who seem to remain impassive in the face of a stimulus that for another person is an emotional motive.
Before entering the topic, it is important to point out that coldness is one of the many qualities that an interested person possesses; They are those people who only care about what they want to obtain without looking at the affected people, these people disguise themselves as friends only when they want to obtain something that you can offer them, but when they need your support, they do not find it..
Interested people are cold, calculating and judgmental, they can carry out any activity until they reach the desired goal. The mask of these individuals is one in which they are friendly, understanding, and sometimes outgoing; Their main task is to deceive people who are naive and have a higher rank than them (bosses, teachers, etc.), for this you must be a person totally disconnected from your (cold) feelings and thus not worry about the means that you use to achieve your goal.
An attitude of coldness and indifference on the part of another person produces pain given the social nature of the human being when expectations of friendship or love arise. This attitude can convey a message of extreme detachment. But on many occasions, we are wrong when judging this external attitude since in it there can only be one defense mechanism from which it tries not to suffer more. There is not always a coherence between a person's external actions and their inner world.
This type of emotional coldness can lead to the confusion of believing that the other person does not need contact with others and is happy in their solitude. However, on many occasions, behind this apparent coldness there is an enormous need for affection, since it is love that is releasing the handcuffs of the heart that derive from coldness.
Today, there are people who continue to apply a kind of emotional ostracism (they condemn the other to cold treatment) that involves systematically ignoring their needs. That person adopts a passive-aggressive behavior since he resorts to silence, indifference and contempt to punish or manipulate the other.
Behaviors that reveal emotional coldness are:
- Refusing to have a conversation and talk to the person who is "punishing".
- Not showing affection, consciously ignoring the emotional needs of the other, which remain unsatisfied within the framework of the relationship.
- Do not answer your questions or do it in monosyllables.
- Show a marked lack of interest in everything related to the other person.
- Do not attend social events together, with the goal of making the other person ashamed of himself.
- Avoid physical and eye contact, acting as if the person does not exist, so that they feel invisible and insignificant.
- Refusing to collaborate on different tasks to generate frustration and discomfort in the other.
