Permissivity means 'excessive tolerance' or 'permissive condition'. Permissiveness shows a style of education that parents can adopt and that is not very positive from a pedagogical point of view. Permissiveness shows the attitude of overindulging children by taking into account their whims.
Permissiveness is linked to other attitudes that also reduce the child's potential: overprotection. Permissiveness is the attitude that shows an exaggerated tolerance towards certain areas.
In the context of permissive education, a very important principle of assertive pedagogy also fails: learning to say no. It is very important that parents set limits for their children through the firmness of the word no. Otherwise, children acquire a distorted notion of the world and of life, since a child who has not developed his capacity for tolerance in childhood will reach adolescence and discover for himself the limits that lie along the way.
Who is permissive, therefore, shows tolerance to the transgression of the norms or, at least, appears as someone who is open to the exchange of opinions and reasons before making a decision. If a teacher announces the date of an exam and, after the pleas of his students, decides to postpone it for a few days, it can be said that he is a permissive person.
Social permissiveness is one of the causes of family violence, they are very diverse, from permissive forms of education to mental pathologies, through family conflicts. "We cannot speak of a specific disorder of child-parent violence, but of a symptom that is like a complaint, a cry for help for a pain that no one sees or assists" but it is a false exit because by using violence, it adds more violence ", says José Ramón Ubieto, a psychologist at the SSB Horta-Guinardó.
Indulge a child excessively and later, you will discover that you have not developed the appropriate resources to deal with these types of situations. Permissiveness is bad for children precisely because it prevents children from training important emotional skills, such as the frustration of not fulfilling a wish. A permissive upbringing also involves excessively spoiling the child and giving him lots of whims.
In this type of education it is possible to make pedagogical mistakes. For example, putting the child in a punishment that later does not comply. In this way, the child receives contradictory messages that do not help him differentiate between what is correct and what is not.
